Do what you love. Do it FOR love. In this month of romance I am reflecting on what it means to be passionate about something outside of someONE. Not fulfilling our innate longing makes us less lovable, in a constant state of unrest and totally incomplete. Sorry Tom Cruise, another human being cannot “complete us”; completion is only accomplished by acknowledging the validity of our internal self where that longing comes from. We are born this way.
When I turned 50 I realized that I had spent too many years operating my life by the dictates of well-meaning others which always seemed to clash with my own internal driver. Because my personal operating system* was so different from most people’s, I assumed they were right and that my dreams were flawed. It wasn’t until I fully understood that people see the world and it’s opportunities in different ways that they therefore create in different ways. Like many Creatives I understand in a very different way than most people around me including even my own spouse. Embracing that difference allows me act on that internal drive rather than suppressing it.
Now past age 60 I know that I must follow my internal longings and “create” on a daily basis to feel whole. I must assemble, design, coordinate. I must mix, blend, build. I must ruminate, experiment, test. The ideas come faster than I can put them down and if I cannot write or can’t get to a paint brush, an empty pot and a full larder in the kitchen will do. I feel alive with purpose when I am creating, know that I am doing what I am intended to do and I LOVE my life when I am doing it. To a Creative, the void of personal expression is a depressed spirit. Have you been there?
I am happy that I have been able to establish my livelihood through my creative work. My methods fly in the face of traditional business plans and it has been a running joke that I periodically have to “prove” my intuitive process with traditional methods to banks, family members that are scared to death of my latest brainstorm, to clientele that give me the deer-in-the-headlights look and even to myself! But it does work out and when it is less that perfect, a creative touch nudges it in the right direction.
In this month dedicated to love, think about what you love to do and I encourage you to embrace it. Because the thing is, people live their dreams all the time, so why not you!
My latest creative project was the re-assembling of my studio and esthetics business when I moved it back to Canterbury, NH from Portsmouth, NH last December. Here are a few before and after photos…
I carved out a portion of our barn to act as my “store” for my art and esthetics practice. Hubby built the wall and sliding door then I white-washed everything. A recycled window from a historic house in town makes a nice divider and lets light from the windows through.I opened the store in the late summer before all my goods were here so just placed an antique dresser against the wall. But soon I knew I needed more display space. I envisioned color palettes at eye level but the mirror was in the way…so I separated the dresser and raised the mirror effectively extending the piece to accommodate shelves in between. Again hubby built and I re-finished. In my absence from our home, we had turned part of my studio space into an apartment so returning meant re-converting it back to an esthetics space. I had laid the floors before but, oddly, all the fixtures that hubby and I built for Portsmouth fit here EXACTLY.
*There are many psychological stereo types to explain why people differ – right brain/left brain, mars/venus, introverted/extroverted, visual learners/kinesthetic learners…. the fact remains that we all learn and do differently, no one way is the right way EXCEPT that way that works for you.
COVER PHOTO COLLAGE: I loved the artistic personal expression shown in the current exhibit at the Peabody Essex Museum. Thought you would like that pop of color too!